Saturday, February 28, 2009

Progress at 43Things: Move to NYC (10)

4 weeks from today ... is moving day.

The next big task is selling my car. I have a buyer, thankfully, so the hardest part is conceivably done.
  1. Call DMV and get the official scoop on what forms are required, who needs to sign them, and who needs to witness the signings. (i.e. Do both buyer and seller need to be present at DMV during business hours, or can we handle the transaction and then just file the paperwork?)
  2. Keep appointment at Credit Union; pay off loan (yay, debt diminished by another $3000), request Title Document that indicates the property is lien-free
  3. Clean vehicle inside and out
  4. Sort through paperwork to pass to new owner, completed 02.28.09
  5. 03.23.09 = turn in plates and registration
  6. 03.23.09 = fax green slip to Insurance Agent, cancel policy
  7. 03.27.09 = file transfer-of-ownership documents, collect payment, turn over paperwork and keys to Brandon
Whew.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Negotiating Pen and Ink

I always think I'm a crap negotiator, because I don't actually negotiate anything. Except that the reason I don't negotiate is because the other party's first offer always beats the hell out of whatever I was best hoping for. Like when I first accepted the offer for this position two years ago; I figured I'd negotiate a $10,000 salary bump at best over my previous position, and the first offer was for $15,000. I had to pick my jaw up off the floor to say yes.

It happened again today, while negotiating lease terms on my new apartment. I talked them down before I ever saw it, merely by asking the agent, Nelson, if the price was comparable to the first apartment he was going to show me (which I bailed on because the neighborhood was NOT for me). I indicated that I only wanted to view it if my price was agreed to, and it was an immediately done deal. Today, we discussed 1 vs. 2 year terms. I figured I'd be lucky to nab a two-year lease with a 5% increase for the second year, and would take it. Landlord offered a 3% increase for year 2 -- for a monthly rent that is still less than his original asking price before I ever saw the place.

So, renting in NYC is apparently as much a buyer's market as it will ever be. I have a two year contract on a place that I love, at a price I can definitely afford, in the sweetest neighborhood EVER. Life is so freaking amazing.

~*~

In other news, Aja is trying to lure everyone on her flist to thelittlebang -- a femmeslash fic challenge. On one hand I am incredibly tempted, because I so want to learn how to write again, and my GOD, it's fandom femmeslash, and if there's one thing I can imagine a plot for really well it would be Ziva/Jenny. Except it's 15,000 words, and in order to participate in a challenge you can't actually, you know, SUCK. And you need beta readers, and I don't participate in fandom enough to know anyone I could ask. And I'm moving, and busy with work, and don't really have a lot of time, so it would be a *really* bad idea.

Help?

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Monday, February 16, 2009

Project NYC Confirmed

Lease is mine for March 1.
Office is ready for March 24.
Movers are confirmed for March 28.

*\o/*

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Progress at 43Things: Move to NYC (9)

40 days according to my countdown calendar. If you look at the entry below this one, my massive list of “To-Dos” has shrunk to three!

I found an apartment in Fort Greene on my trip Saturday, and am going back to the city on Friday to sign the lease, turn over an astronomical sum of money, gather parking permits for my movers, take room measurements, and take photos.

I’ve got the lease on March 1, but as my office won’t be ready until the 24th, moving day is slated for the 28th. HURRAH!

Confirmation: I have a HOME in NYC!

Fifteen minutes ago I spoke with Nelson, the agent who showed me a dreamy little apartment in Fort Greene on Saturday afternoon; I've been approved to rent the place! He's confirming my lease date for me (March 15, hopefully, rather than March 1) within two hours, at which point I'll be able to finalize and confirm my budget -- and will start making confirmation phone calls -- but OMG YAY!

Given the twitter-spam-stream I was running yesterday, the tidbits of information delivered therein, and the many questions about different steps in the process from many of you, I'm detailing the run-down of the day and the things I've learned.

This whole trip was a last-minute whim.
The owner/landlord of a flat I've been interested in for the last 10 days or so (referenced on Twitter as #2, 2 bdrm on Union Street in Prospect Heights) will be out of town this coming week, but offered to show me the apartment if I could come in on the 14th. A colleague took the time to scope out the space for me on Wednesday (thanks, Kelley!) and shared her thoughts - I definitely thought it was worth looking at, so planned a trip. Since I was going to take the day anyway, I contacted agents/landlords of a dozen of the apartments I've been cataloging and was able to arrange viewings for five flats in three neighborhoods. Hooray for productive visits.

Lesson 1 Learned
Driving south through New Jersey is confusing, but I owe a debt of education to the Relay For Life staff of New Jersey -- there must be a Relay in 90% of the towns there, because as I passed the highway signs and drove through the areas trying to find my way back to the destination in question, I never felt lost. "Garfield, Rutherford, Cliffside Park -- we have Relays here! I may have no idea how to get from here to Hoboken, but I know where here is. They've got a Relay, they're good people." (Yes, I'm directionally challenged in NJ even with GPS. It's a case of too many options at every intersection.)

After the adventure of getting to Hoboken, I was able to find my bank without a problem (two blocks from the PATH station where I left my car) and meet with my contact there. I chose PNC in spite of the lack of branches in NYC, because the Virtual Wallet account system is absolutely brilliant -- if I visit a bricks-n-mortar location more than twice a year, there must be a special reason (like arranging traveler's checks for apartment applications), so the distance trade-off seemed worth it. I've been thrilled with the tools, have had zero trouble transferring money between banks or between my PNC accounts, and have handled everything online in my own time. I found the staff super friendly and helpful, *and* learned that a branch is under construction in midtown (34th Street) with the opening planned for the end of May. Win!

After leaving the bank, I was able to navigate the PATH and the subways by myself without a problem all day -- I never once went in the wrong direction. In one instance (exiting at the Washington Avenue station) I was able to use the direction of the train to predict my walking pattern above-ground, and was right! I'm still nervous about successfully getting to and from areas on time during rush hour traffic -- I haven't figured out the trick of understanding the electronically muffled operator voices, and the station signs are hard to see through shoulders -- but I'm feeling generally confident that I can determine the direction I need to go in, and the line I need to be on.

Lesson 2 Learned
When taking the subway, I need to traverse the platform and keep my eyes peeled for signs announcing changes in service. Waiting 30 minutes for a C train that isn't coming can be avoided by looking at the poster on the other side of the pillar I'm standing next to, which indicates to take the A, instead. (Yes, I had Ellington's sax playing in my head for the whole ride, even though I was traveling away from Harlem.)

I fell in love with Clinton Hill and Fort Greene as soon as I turned the corner onto Gates Avenue. Diverse neighborhood -- I heard more accents than I can name, recognized French and Japanese being spoken, and heard a few others I couldn't place. Economically diverse -- housing materials and the outdoor flotsam of life in varying degrees of quality, but all well-cared-for and maintained. Children were playing outdoors (ball in the park); adults were sweeping leaves, arranging trash bins, washing windows; plant life -- trees and shrubs lining the streets -- while dormant for winter, was healthy. But more than that, the neighborhoods passed the eye-contact-hello test.

I'm from the suburbs of upstate, and Malta/Ballston/Saratoga are small enough that you always know someone while being big enough that you don't know everyone. When you pass someone in the street, you nod, smile, and say hello, recognizing one another as neighbors, and acknowledging companionable presence. Being casually friendly, in other words. As I wandered the streets of this neighborhood and visited shops, I smiled, nodded, and said hello or good morning -- about half of the time, I was greeted first. Friendly, welcoming, happy neighborhood -- honestly not what I was expecting from "big bad New York City."

On to Apartment #1 (Junior 1 bedroom in a brownstone on Grand Avenue in Clinton Hill). The neighbors were friendly and welcoming - the guy living on the first floor let me in, and told me "the apartment is great, and Mitch is the best landlord ever -- great place to live." The landlord was easy-going and professional, and the space was sweet. Tiny, but not smaller than expected, and well-laid out. I liked it enough to fill out the forms, pay the fee, and leave a copy of my application packet (rental, employment, and financial history, credit report, and references) with Mitch.

With an hour before my appointment to see Apartment #2 (the instigation of the day), I walked the neighborhoods for awhile. Clinton Hill is north of Prospect Heights, so I headed south and zigzagged the streets. There were lots of people outside taking advantage of the weather, and I was able to put my rusty Spanish greetings to good use (earning some smiles for my effort). I saw a lot of shops and businesses that were doing a steady business, and passed some seemingly lovely restaurants.

Then I crossed Eastern Parkway on Washington, and walked along the park for a couple of blocks. No people, suprisingly. I turned East, and headed into Crown Heights, crossing Bedford and Norstrand, zig-zagging back to Union. In just those few short blocks, the vibe of the neighborhood completely shifted. Everyone seemed wary -- little interaction, little conversation in general, and no one returned my greetings. When the people I passed did meet my gaze, it was with a challenging, "size me up" attitude. Now, if I hadn't just come from a super-friendly neighborhood that completely blew away my expectations, this might not have seemed so cold. But to be met in that regard at noon on a sunny Saturday afternoon didn't make me feel comfortable at the prospect of walking through the area at 2am on my way home from a gala, or a night out with friends.

I called landlord #2 and landlord #5 (a sunny 1bdrm on Bedford in Crown Heights) and said "thanks but no thanks," and walked back up to Udom for lunch. Udom is a little Thai restaurant that I've heard great things about -- it's got a lovely ambiance (small tables, a fireplace, a slight tang of incense in the air), a solid menu (several variations on the dishes I've come to think of as standard Thai), and the staff are lovely. I ordered pineapple chicken curry -- and it was gorgeous. I'm no gourmand, but I think I have pretty well-formed tastes, and I was thrilled. Verdict: I'll miss the Thai Garden in Saratoga because it's been my favorite for years and has wonderful memories attached, but I've found a Brooklyn counterpart.

After lunch, I walked to the Atlantic station, and took the train down to Sunset Park -- the 53rd St stop. I had leads on a couple of apartments between 3rd and 4th avenues, one on 57th St and the other on 39th. Herein lies the danger of neighborhood shopping from books, maps, and web reviews -- occasionally you strike out big time. I walked a zigzag between 2nd and 5th down to 60th Street and all the way up to 25th Street, and knew almost immediately that the neighborhood wasn't for me. Very loud and dirty, lots of people who were interacting in small groups but not with anyone else, and no one I passed acknowledged my existence. I'm not sure if there's been some racial tension in the area, but there was definitely some isolationist behavior exhibited. In contrast to Clinton Hill, where I was immediately welcomed, it didn't strike me as a place where it would be easy to join a neighborhood, where being part of a larger community was so blatantly valued. In part, I worry because that was a bit of a knee-jerk reaction and I particularly want to keep an open-mind going into this. But at the same time, I passed hundreds of people within the 4 mile loop that I walked and felt invisible -- as for living in that environment, I've been there, done that, and burned the t-shirt.

I called landlords #3 (2-bdrm loft on 57th) and #4 (newly renovated 1-bdrm on 39th) and said "thank you," but I was looking for a different neighborhood. Which is when I struck gold.

Nelson, who was showing me #4, is an agent with Citi Habitats, and he is by far and away the most helpful person I've worked with (who isn't a friend, that is -- you have all been super!). He knows I'm not from NYC, knows I've been planning special trips in, gave me lots of tips on the information I could include in my information packet, made sure I had explicit subway and walking information so I didn't get lost, and was just generally available to answer my questions and offer tips. When I called, he asked me what I had and hadn't liked during the day. When I explained to him what I'd seen and found desirable, he told me about Apartment #6 (a 1-bdrm on Carlton Ave in Fort Greene) and arranged to meet me there at 4:30.

Lesson 3 Learned
There are people in the world who are exceptional at their jobs because they're exceptional people. Success in sales is about understanding your client's needs so you can tailor your offerings to that need, or shape their understanding of your product to fill a new niche. When finding such people, hold on to them. (I've known this for awhile, but didn't expect to meet anyone in NYC Real Estate who fit that bill!)

Carlton Ave is one of the prettiest streets in Fort Greene. It's a wide avenue, with designated bike lanes and wide sidewalks. The homes tend to be older brownstones set farther back from the street with wide staircases, gated entrances to basement level flats, and street-level courtyards. #6 is at the north end of Carlton (between Myrtle and Park), which is less pretty -- the buildings are townhomes rather than brownstones, smaller and less imposing, but still well set. Above Park is the elevated Brooklyn-Queens expressway, so I was immediately worried about noise -- and then I saw the flat.

It's the first floor apartment, in the prettiest little 3-floor brick building, with a wrought-iron gated courtyard out front. There's a short staircase leading up to the front door, which opens into a wide hallway; a staircase just inside leads to the upstairs flats, and my door is at the end of the hallway. The door opens into a little entryway, with the kitchen just off to the right. It's enormous, nearly as large as the kitchen in my townhouse in Saratoga, with room for a table or an island. Behind the kitchen is the bathroom, nearly 2.5 times as large as my prior bath, with a lovely, deep, soaking tub and a wide window ledge. To the left of the entryway and kitchen is the living room, with a pass through to the kitchen -- it's windowless, but the floor plan is open enough that ambient light filters through. The door to the bedroom is off to the left -- the room is as large as the living room, has two windows, contains the only closet in the flat, and a decorative fireplace. The entire place has been recently renovated, the wood floors and windows are in great condition, the plumbing and heating systems are new -- it's absolutely the most beautiful indoor space I've ever had the opportunity to live in.

But the best part, is that it comes with outdoor space. The owner has as of yet done nothing with the yard, a terraced-level garden, but is working with a contractor to completely redesign the area when the ground thaws. It's in some disrepair now -- overgrown, weeds, some damaged planting beds, some junk lying around that has to be removed or stored properly. But, it will be a fully functional patio and yard by summertime, with plenty of space for entertaining. Best of all, the garden beds that are already constructed can be repaired for my use as a garden, or I can set out containers! It's a walled garden, so the noise-pollution I feared isn't an issue -- we were outside for a good fifteen minutes, and had no issues.

Nelson looked over the packet of information that I brought and was convinced, he told me "if you want the apartment, it's yours." At which point, I was in raptures over the space, the neighborhood, the garden ... everything but the price tag. Always the catch, right? The apartment is pushing the upper limit of what I've allotted for a housing allowance, so I was afraid to say, "yes, I'll take it" yesterday -- fearing I would have to disappoint myself. It's Sunday morning: now that I've crunched the numbers, asked some clarifying questions, and confirmed the possibilities, I'm off to Staples to fax the application papers. Here's hoping the owner agrees with the agent, because if so -- I have a home.

(12.39 miles walked in Brooklyn; not my record for a day, but definitely high for winter. Today, my legs are killing me.)

First published at TheNines

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

Windless Sails

I left the house tonight for the first time since I got home from work on Friday. My adventure was terribly exciting -- a brisk walk with Rascal (super-fast Jack Russell puppy) followed by a trip to Target for cat litter, a tin of black tea, and a birthday gift for my brother-in-law. On the way home, I allowed myself to daydream about the flats I've made appointments to see, what they might look like, what my life in those neighborhoods might be.

After arriving home and eating dinner while chatting with Becca I ran upstairs for my habitual email check; while I was daydreaming in the car, Daniella and Julian were writing to let me know that the flats I'd made appointments to see are no longer available.

This should not be so disappointing. I have a hand-written list of "things to expect" tacked up on the wall above my monitor, and number one is don't plan on being able to view anything you see online before the 12th. But I fall in love with ideas and dreams way too fast.

What the hell happened to the rampant optimism I used to exude? This roller coaster is just depressing.

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Monday, February 2, 2009

Bleargh

Am home sick, desperately trying to get work done at 1/3 my normal speed. Laptop makes a lovely heating pad, albeit a heavy one. Cats are better (and are curled around my feet in a most obliging manner).

Last night, I thought I was going to die. My guts were so tied in knots that breathing exerted too much pressure; I stood up out of bed, lifted one foot to take a step, and crashed to the floor like a felled tree. I think darkness and solitude exacerbate pain, though, since this morning I recall the fear more than the agony. And am very glad I don't have an appendix on the point of rupturing, which was my fear at the time.

So. I'm situated with blankets and a box of tissues and a glass of water and my blackberry and the laptop and a to do list that's ten miles long. But I'm open to distraction, since my attention-span is pretty much crap.

Hope everyone else feels better than me.

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Sunday, February 1, 2009

Chartless

I am *incredibly* pissed off about the demise of OurChart.com.

Background, for those in need:


  • The L Word is a television show that premiered in 2004, focusing on an almost exclusively lesbian cast, set in West Hollywood. (Realism was never an aim, let alone a success-factor, regardless of the "serious art" claims made by the producers.)




  • In the first season of the show, character Alice Pieszecki introduces a concept called "the Chart", a gigantic diagram which covers an entire wall of her apartment, mapping the sexual relationships between her friends, lovers, and acquaintances in LA -- a spider web of interconnectedness that shows "everyone really has slept with everyone else."




  • In 2006, the show's creator, Ilene Chaiken, and star, Jennifer Beals (yes, Flashdance star Jennifer Beals, who is hotter than *anyone* no matter how many years later, thankyouverymuch) created and launched a Social Networking site built around the premise of The Chart.

  • OurChart.com was a typical social networking site, with profiles, the ability to add and remove Friends (and use the "Friends Plus" feature if you were a public enough person to want to contribute your sordid details to the original incarnation of The Chart (I am *so* not a public enough person for that -- which actually pissed off three of the women I was with in college who were, of course, members (hello, *small* community).)). It also had a great deal of content about the show from a fan perspective, but the canonical data was all maintained officially by Ilene and her cadre of assistants, so it was a cool resource for anyone interested in that type of thing. (I stopped watching during Season 3 -- when I could no longer suspend my disbelief.)

    This week the ownership of OurChart.com was turned over to SHO, and the site was taken down -- all user-generated content was destroyed.

    Apparently announcements were made on the site itself sometime after January 19, but users were never contacted (hello, that's what Administrative Email is *for*) and told what was happening and why or what we should do. Now, all links to ourchart.com or subsidiary pages redirect to the newly designed Showtime website, and queries to the contact form are not being answered.

    So, okay, the show is in it's final season and has lost a significant chunk of the fan base. The economy being what it is, everyone is looking to cut corners; running a resource-sucking website for a small subset of SHO's audience is probably not the best use of income from a pure accounting perspective. But there is a right way to close something that people find valuable, and a wrong way. This was so far from "right" that it's stuck on an ice floe in Antarctica, debating a flatulence-powered space launch as the fastest way of seeing equatorial terra firma.

    For me, personally, I have irretrievably lost half a dozen contacts I've made in the last year for social events in New York City -- a dance teacher for Capoeira instruction, a barmaid at a DL women's bar in Queens, three social justice activists engaged with various projects that aren't Idealist NYC, and the leader of a city biking group. I was so freaking excited to already have a group of lesbian contacts who could become friends and whom had already offered to show me around town in April -- and they are now gone. I'm good at digging people up, but first-name-only google searches focused on the boroughs of Manhattan, Brooklyn, and Queens with few defining characteristics to go on don't offer me much hope.

    I'm angry at the callousness authorized and executed by the leadership at SHO (and you can bet I won't be subscribing to their service anytime in the future), and I'm sad for my own loss, and in both cases there's nothing I can do about it.

    First published to TheNines